As a society we have an obsession with more, but many are starting to realize that more is not always better. First it was Marie Kondo-ing our homes and asking if it sparks joy, now it's doing The Home Edit and finding zones for our stuff, while also arranging things in rainbow order. Not gonna lie, just a couple episodes in and I'm already wishing the crew would go back to some of the non-celebrity projects and do surprise visits to see if people actually keep those systems up. But I digress. We are here today to talk about our relentless pursuit of more.
More stuff does not equal more happiness
As I contemplated this trend of tidying up and living with less (which would be a struggle for me to personally embrace, as I love a cozy home), I was reminded of an interview I watched several years ago with Tom Shadyac, the filmmaker behind the documentary “I AM,” but also the director of films like “Liar, Liar” and “Bruce Almighty.” He said something that really struck me about the excess he had accumulated during those successful years.
He said, “I was standing in the house that my culture had taught me was a measure of the good life, and I was struck with one very clear, very strange feeling: I was no happier.”
He went on, “I had a full-time housekeeper, I had a full-time gardener, I had a landscape architect, … I had a house manager, a business manager, a money manager, a career manager. I needed a manager for my managers.”
He had tapped out on the more = happier scale.
The trouble with always wanting more is that eventually it gets to be too much.
The Universe says that "great joy leads to great abundance but that this is not true in reverse." I fully believe that — we can get so caught up in making sure we have an abundance of stuff or money, but that doesn’t lead to joy. However, when we pursue joy for the sake of pure joy, we often find that the things we really need are there in abundance anyway.
Less stuff = more joy?
How much of our focus in life is about accumulating more? More money, more clothes, more toys, more square footage, more likes. But do we ever stop to consider whether the moremoremore is bringing more happiness? Often it just brings more obligations that cancel out any added enjoyment.
Breaking the cycle
The next time you find yourself caught up in the cycle of wishing for more and therefore not enjoying the current enough, stop to consider whether the added responsibility of more will be worth it. You may just find that enough is enough. And that wouldn’t be such a bad thing now, would it?